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Incest :India's hidden shame
Shantanu , Delhi: Jun 10 2009
Made Popular Jun 11 2009
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Incest :India's hidden shame

Two instances of incest were widely talked about in the media over the past months. The first pertained to the Austrian Josef Fritzl who has just been sentenced to life imprisonment for incarcerating his daughter in a purpose-built prison beneath the family home in Amstetten for 24 years, raping her more than 3,000 times, fathering seven children with her and causing the death of a twin son. Sounds too horrible to be true; and the fact that it was his own daughter make it sound even more monstrous.

The other story, more home grown, is that of a businessman, who allegedly raped his daughter over a period of nine years following a tantrik’s advice for getting rich. The traumatised girl, now 21, had been silent about her ordeal but mustered courage to approach the police after her father attempted to rape her 15-year-old younger sister, again on the advice of the tantrik. The mother was arrested by for abetting the crime, and if any thing, the fact that the mother actively helped out as her daughter was being violated makes it if anything; more ghastly.

Just how big an issue is incest in India? Well obviously a topic like this will always be in the shadows and one may have even to look at the definition of the word “incest”. In South India, marriages happen between cousins (especially cross-cousins, that is, the children of a brother and sister) and even between uncles and nieces (especially a man and his elder sister’s daughter). That is culturally acceptable and would not be termed as an incestuous relationship.

A report produced by the BBC a decade ago had opined citing research sources that Close-knit family life in India masks an alarming amount of sexual abuse of children and teenage girls by family members. It said that that disbelief, denial and cover-up to preserve the family reputation is often put before the individual child and its abuse. A report from RAHI, a Delhi based NGO working with child sexual abuse titled “ Voices from the Silent Zone,” suggests that nearly three-quarters of upper and middle class Indian women are abused by a family member - more than often an uncle, a cousin or an elder brother.

Indeed, sexual abuse of children in any form of household setting by a family member in India is among the most urgent forms of child abuse which our society must address. As per women’s organizations and activists nearly ninety-five percent of the abused are girls and more than ninety-five percent abusers are males. Surveys carried out in schools and informal chats reveal that around 40% girls experience incest abuse or sexual abuse in one or the other form in India. How deep the ice berg is can perhaps be gauged by the fact that 6% of all calls made to CHILDLINE (a 24-hour Indian helpline for children in distress) in the last ten years have reported Child Sexual Abuse(CSA) — 6% of 10 million calls! There probably could not be greater statistical validation that CSA/incest is the most under-reported child rights violations in India.

In India, there is no single law that specifically deals with child abuse, and there is no clear delineation of sexual abuse in the Indian Penal Code. Indian laws consider only “assault to outrage the modesty of a woman,” rape by penile penetration, and “unnatural sexual intercourse” like sodomy as punishable sexual crimes.

Although, there are lawyers and child rights activists who are ready to spell, explain, and act against incest and abuse they are still not a critical mass and their views strong enough to be able to impact consciousness of the policymakers, police, lawyers, judges, teachers, schools, mental, physical and sexual health professionals, and all those who could take up the issue.

Although the issues of shame, family honour and plain depravity means that very little statistics are available, it also means that every statistic available speaks not just for itself for a lot many others in the shadows, children and girls who invisible and will because of the abuse and betrayal they have faced, retreat further into the darkness and possibly out of reach of help. For organizations like RAHI, the RAASTA is indeed long and a lot more RAAHGIRs are needed to fight this mammoth dark monster.

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Rose Ng'ang'a
Nairobi, Kenya
HORRIBLE! no other word.
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Ketul
Jamshedpur, India
Yes it is horrible but what prompts the men to do such acts?
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Vinit
Mangalore, India
Shantnu
It all depends on the culture and traditions. Even in tribal parts of northern India marriages can be held in too close relations.
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Claudio
Ca, United States
Incest should have no place in our lives. It seems so completely unimaginable that somebody can think actually sexually abuse his own daughter for years on end.

I guess man has fallen to such an extent that all this and more passes through and the victims have no option but to live in their own silent hell. There is clearly no social and religious sanction for this.
(Global Perspectives)
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Shameem
Aligarh, India
@ Shantanu, You have brought forward a very sensitive topic. Kudos!

People have to be aware of their basic rights and more importantly children should also be aware of their rights. If somebody from the family is abusing the child, then who will take care of the innocent chap.

I think schools are the better place to teach kids on the sex. Sex education should be made compulsory and children should know which number to call if they get into a troublesome situation.
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Jeanelle
Ottawa, Canada
Its not a rocket science at all. Little awareness can bring drastic changes.

Tell your children how they should not be touched physically and in case somebody does, immediately, they are suppose to report or shout for the safety.
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Brajesh
Banglore, India
Our children at large irrespective of sex are not safe if they are not aware of their basic right. The right to protect their own body.
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Gaurav
Banglore, India
Like everything else, Indian should accept this happens and don’t keep it in the family but go through the correct process of bringing justice. I don’t understand, how many things Indian will have to start agreeing happens in India
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Leena
Kolkata, India
Incestuous relationships can be really ugly and in India especially where a lot of importance is given to preserve the family property. Its rather shocking, but its believed that there are families that encourage incestuous relationships between brothers and sisters so that they don’t feel like marrying outside the family and share their properties with ’outsiders’
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veena
delhi, India
Shantunu,
Thanks for writing an enlightening write-up.I have to prepare a field report on Human Rights violation,You have given me a topic which should be brought in the notice of an Ostrich society.Keep it up
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